Leave it for a few more days. Like you say, small town…you don’t want to alienate yourself. In a few days, if you really do feel that strongly, then send it. But remember, there will be other jobs and I always take the approach that ‘it just wasn’t meant to be’ when things like this happen. Sleep on it a little while longer.
What they’ve done isn’t right, however you don’t want to make yourself unpopular. I live in a small town (in England) and oh, the people (knobheads) I’d love to write about on my blog…but God would it make life hard!!! Xx
I have written many “righteous, indignant and super pissed off” letters in my time. I can’t think of one I ever actually sent. They make you feel good to get it off you chest, although may not help the situation in any way, and are best left unsent, even after several drafts.
We missed out on what we thought was our Dream House after a shonky underhand Agent deal gave someone else ‘our’ house…we were “righteous, indignant and super pissed off” for a good 2 months…until the actual Dreamier House came our way and we got that instead.
Maybe the Universe is saving you for something better.
Here’s a cyber hug in the meantime x
As above, i agree with you about sending a letter because its the right thing to do but on the other side of the fence you might be the most qualified, but perhaps there is more that they thought u were not as suitable. u live in a small town . I would leave it alone, or ask for feedback from the panal
Living in a small town in WA I feel your righteous, indignant and super pissed off” ed ness totally. I get torn between what is right for me & mine socially in the living in a small town context, the general dont make a fuss breading I seem to have AND my fierce dislike of not standing up of not saying something, of acquiescing to silence is consent. As others have said use the letter as a cathartic process, dont send it as it is not worth it (in the sense of ills in this world worth really fighting and sacrificing for).. trust that sometimes what happens is for a reason that may not appear for years. (though that platitude is a bitch to swallow).. Be very careful who you talk to about it… sometimes chatter is worse than a letter!
Just with reference to impact on your children… As a child I had parent(s) make difficult decisions in small towns. In return I was excluded from a sporting team, bullied and ridiculed by a coach and berated in a classroom by a teacher. It was not nice. We were never locals, we were there for my parents work. I would not send the letter until I was leaving town. I’m chicken like that.
Leave it for a few more days. Like you say, small town…you don’t want to alienate yourself. In a few days, if you really do feel that strongly, then send it. But remember, there will be other jobs and I always take the approach that ‘it just wasn’t meant to be’ when things like this happen. Sleep on it a little while longer.
What they’ve done isn’t right, however you don’t want to make yourself unpopular. I live in a small town (in England) and oh, the people (knobheads) I’d love to write about on my blog…but God would it make life hard!!! Xx
I agree with Natalie – I don’t envy your dilemma xoxo
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I have written many “righteous, indignant and super pissed off” letters in my time. I can’t think of one I ever actually sent. They make you feel good to get it off you chest, although may not help the situation in any way, and are best left unsent, even after several drafts.
We missed out on what we thought was our Dream House after a shonky underhand Agent deal gave someone else ‘our’ house…we were “righteous, indignant and super pissed off” for a good 2 months…until the actual Dreamier House came our way and we got that instead.
Maybe the Universe is saving you for something better.
Here’s a cyber hug in the meantime x
Do not send it. It’s only a job and there will be others. You stand to lose too much by creating a fuss.
As above, i agree with you about sending a letter because its the right thing to do but on the other side of the fence you might be the most qualified, but perhaps there is more that they thought u were not as suitable. u live in a small town . I would leave it alone, or ask for feedback from the panal
Living in a small town in WA I feel your righteous, indignant and super pissed off” ed ness totally. I get torn between what is right for me & mine socially in the living in a small town context, the general dont make a fuss breading I seem to have AND my fierce dislike of not standing up of not saying something, of acquiescing to silence is consent. As others have said use the letter as a cathartic process, dont send it as it is not worth it (in the sense of ills in this world worth really fighting and sacrificing for).. trust that sometimes what happens is for a reason that may not appear for years. (though that platitude is a bitch to swallow).. Be very careful who you talk to about it… sometimes chatter is worse than a letter!
Just with reference to impact on your children… As a child I had parent(s) make difficult decisions in small towns. In return I was excluded from a sporting team, bullied and ridiculed by a coach and berated in a classroom by a teacher. It was not nice. We were never locals, we were there for my parents work. I would not send the letter until I was leaving town. I’m chicken like that.