Ranty Pants Post – and a little editing…..
This picture above has been doing the facebook rounds for months now.
And it totally gives me the shits.
I cannot STAND it and I feel like screaming every time someone waxes lyrical about its wisdom.
Its BULLSHIT people!!!!
As Mothers we are always making the right decisions, because they are right for you and your family; nobody elses.
Motherhood is NOT about doing everything wrong, its not. And who has the right to say that to you anyway? And circulate it as truth in a cutesy picture to mask its condemnation and blame?
We don’t need forgiveness; we should be proud of ourselves for doing whatever it takes to make it work. Motherhood is hard and the last thing we need is blame and degradation for doing our job.
My mantra has always been “whatever it takes” because God knows, some days we just do whatever it takes at times just to make it through to the next day.
Whether its feeding your baby to sleep, holding him whilst he naps, co-sleeping, controlled crying, bottle feeding, indulging him in that chocolate biscuit or occasionally even losing your temper, this is not wrong; its called survival and loving your child enough to do whatever helps to make it through each day so you can be a better Mother again tomorrow.
Unless you are force feeding your baby McDonalds fries every day for breakfast, lunch and dinner or blowing cigarette smoke in his face whilst he is sleeping then you are doing nothing wrong as a Mother.
Nothing. Understand?? And NOBODY has a right to say so.
Whilst our decisions may be far from perfect, they are not wrong.
And we don’t need forgiveness; we need faith and strength and compassion just to sometimes make it through until tomorrow.
YOU are doing a beautiful job Mumma!
So do me a favour, copy and paste the picture I made below and spread the word.
You are not wrong; be proud of yourself, everyday, for trying your best and doing what works for you and your family!
Well done Lisa. I am getting a little overwhelmed by inspirational quotes these days, even though they still seem to be popular on FB. As mums we are all just getting through the day…we all are all doing our best. Ranty Pants x
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Here’s the thing – 95% of what goes on Facebook is BS. Except for the hunk pictures.
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Love it! My mantra is “do what ever you need to do to get through the day”. Motherhood is a hard gig, we need to be kind on ourselves when we’re doing the best that we can.
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A- freaking- MEN!!! Thank god for a voice of bloody reason. Why women walk around drowning themselves in guilt all the time absolutely mystifies me. Stop being a bloody martyr and face the fact that you are human and imperfect, like the 6 BILLION other people on this planet.
I spent 15 years and 3 children doing it all wrong and feeling a complete parental loser My ex-MIL lived WAY too close and was in my home WAY too often just to point out my oh-so-many failures …. 5 years ago I left the bullying of her son and the whole judgmental family from hell. Now I am trying to relearn that I did ok, I did the best I knew how and I survived 2 children into adulthood and my beautiful Aspie 11 to a place of compassion and love where he can finally learn against all his diagnoses.
I did OK!
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Good for you 🙂
I am in inspirational quotes junkie (don’t hate me) …BUT (and here’s the but)…GOD YOU ARE RIGHT. Some quote are absolute BS. Contrived, soppy shit that somehow manages to backhandedly imply shame for all sorts of things. I am very selective, I’ll have you know 😉
I hate at least 90% of the crap passed around Facebook. People think just because it has a pretty font or background that it must be inspirational, but some of it is just…ew. Parenting ones are the worst, closely followed by co-dependent teenaged love quotes haha.
I think that as mums we can just do the best we can do. Some days are better than others. Everyone’s gonna be OK as long as we love our kids and we keep on trying.
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